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Do not seek the most gorgeous woman for the sake of securing a trophy. Consider that most animals evolve to near their perfect physical appearance. But conscious beings do not because those without natural beauty can choose to work harder to develop their character and competence to higher levels. Thus, some people with less natural beauty work harder to develop superior characters. They do that to compete better in attracting mates for psychuous pleasures and reproduction. By contrast, many of those endowed with natural beauty lack the same competitive pressures to work harder to develop character and competence.
Thus, because certain people without natural beauty make themselves more competitive, they remain well represented throughout the evolutionary stream. In fact, they tend to rise above the naturally beautiful people in power, intellectual attractiveness, and sexual desirability. Those dynamics are why (1) naturally beautiful people can be found among the less evolved and (2) unhandsome people can be found among the highest levels of evolvement. Thus, unlike other animals, nature's drive for physical perfection is not a controlling evolutionary force in man. Indeed, man-controlled intelligent actions can outcompete nature-controlled, physical appearances not only for reproduction and survival, but for prosperity, happiness, and romantic love.
You see, achieving psychuous pleasures and romantic love requires the same discipline, thought, and effort for every individual, regardless of innate physical appearances. You must be cautious of involvement with a woman of exceptional, natural beauty whose personal life reflects low-effort, low-productivity. Such women often let their natural beauty substitute for the long-term effort required to develop characters of competence, self-esteem, and sensuosity required for romantic-love. Thus, underdeveloped, beautiful women -- and men -- are often airheads...often boring, value-draining people who are poor lovers with low self-esteems.
In any case, shyness reduces contact and chances with potential romantic-love partners. But shyness is easily overcome once the problem is identified. In addition, the constant misunderstanding of a uniquely different individual may cause that person to withdraw and become a loner. That aloneness may create an erroneous image that such a person is shy or a bore when neither is true.
A major step toward eliminating shyness is the acceptance of one's own self. To do that, you must realize that no "model" person exists with whom anyone needs to emulate or identify with in order to be healthy, happy, or successful. ...You bypass shyness by being your own self in guiltlessly, proudly producing rational, competitive values in any way you choose, regardless of what others may say or think.
A shy person is seldom a bore. A bore is a person who is silly, uninteresting, or uncomfortable to another person. Often being a bore to a particular person is merely the result of that particular person's reactions. Such reactions depend on individual values and standards. Some people can be boring to certain people, but exciting to others. For example Einstein, Edison, Henry Ford, and Bill Gates while being very exciting to each other, probably would have bored some if not most beautiful women before becoming rich and famous.
"Yes. I see how that could be true," my father said, a bit surprised. "As for not being shy, I'm OK in that department," he added, with a hint of male pride. "But are there other important tips on getting my love-life right and wonderful this time?"
In searching for that life-long romantic partner, keep the following in mind: Men and women have equal capacity for intellectual development, character development, integral honesty, self-esteem, physical fitness, psychuous pleasures, romantic love, and abiding happiness. But physiological differences as well as psychological differences exist between men and women. Those differences must be recognized in order to function effectively -- to function as a human male or female is intended to function -- to function as an honest, rational, conscious being. Those differences cannot be considered good or bad, better or worse, or by any other label. They are just differences in their natures. But the differences are real. Thus, they must be recognized and dealt with as reality.
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